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Ask the Right Questions First
Ask the Right Questions FirstOK. You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile. You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. Ladies too you want to know upfront, is this man still living at home, does he work did he finish school. How reliable is he. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady or man if you decide you want to do that. After you are past the initial small talk, Fellas, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general. Ladies, ask him, "So who do you turn to when you need really good advice?" Look out for answeres like "my college buddy", or "my drinking buddies" or even "nobody I don’t need advice"…etc Guys, next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong. Ladies, he should give you a similar response. Both should be aware however of too many negatives used or either one looking to speed things up prematurely. Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If one puts all the blame on the other, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If either takes all the blame themselves, you should probably do the same. If either says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, then you’ve probably heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.
Asking the right questions will give you some insight and make you more confident when you meet each other for the first time. Remember honesty is the best policy really but don’t ever sell yourself short.
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Nice Guys Do It, Too!
Nice guys do it, Too!
That is just no longer the case. All the stigma of online dating is gone. Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life. Let’s face it…we are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money. We use the internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications. Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships. It’s easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. You’ll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied. Join one or two. Then you’ll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts. That really is all there is to it…that and patience. Gentlemen don’t wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life. Miss or Ms. “Right” could be only a few clicks of the mouse away.
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A Woman’s Guide to Writing a Great Profile
Choosing the site…what’s next?
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Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor. Especially this one, ladies if you love to dance, make sure he too either knows how to dance or really will love to learn at least. I’ve taught many couple where one come to me and thinks I can all of a sudden can make the other love to dance. Sorry but you really should have looked into that one early on.A Man’s Secrets to Successful Online Dating
Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one. A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head. Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you. It’s always great hearing a good story about how two people met, think about the stories you will be telling about you met your special someone.
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You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience. 
Popular Online Dating Activities
Popular Online Dating Activities (Part I)
All types of everyday activities are growing in popularity online these days like sharing photos and greeting cards as well as recipes and can you believe bidding on auctions. In fact, all of these even go hand in hand with online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today. Before actually meeting in person, many dates get acquainted online first. Here are some top-rated activities showing what many potential cyber-dates do. Sharing Recipes – People get tired talking about the work or the weather. So a popular subject to turn to is food. Sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice and even forms friendships over culinary skills – or lack of – and tastes. Search your favorite search engine for “free recipes” to share. Take photos of your culinary creations and share them with your date, too. Bidding at Auctions – EBay auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school. Share cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer wiener whistles, The Partridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman’s Album, 45’s and more. Photos - As a wonderful keepsake of your budding romance, create an online photo album for your new cyber-mate. Include digital photos of favorite outdoor scenes, pets, flowers, cars, silly moments, your computer corner or laptop, etc. Then you’ll even have more to discuss during online dates via emails and chat rooms. Search for “photo albums” to find places that store your photos. Greeting Cards- Regardless of where the person lives, you can mail a greeting card. If privacy and security is an issue, check into renting an inexpensive P.O. Box (check the Yellow Pages). You do not have to be an artist to make something homemade and special for the new friend in your life. Even making a special, personalized greeting card would be appreciated and show your date that you care enough to take the time needed to make something by hand. Search your favorite search engine for online greeting cards also to send, too. They range from free to low cost and can be sent in a click. Tips for the Men: (Part II)Looks Count Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look. Kindness Counts Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”
Unless Politics is seriously what attracted you both I would strongly suggest staying away from this one. Discussions on politics most often leave a bad taste in ones mouth due to feelings, emotional connection to topics or nationalism. It’s best to avoid this topic in the beginning stages until you both feel more comfortable and appreciative of one another’s opinion. [More Tips will be covered in our following articles in the series]. So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. No need to risk meeting in person until you get more familiar with each other online first. So take the online plunge! And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!
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Heads up, gents. Online dating can open up new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work.
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