Choosing the site…what’s next?     

Depending on which site you chose, some features vary widely which can effect your profile. Here are some things to consider first:
(1)    Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership (s)? 
(2)    Features. Which features are the most important to you?
        (A)    Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?
        (B)    Chat and IM’s? There are websites who offer chat rooms and IM’s on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy just sticking to private email.
        (C)    Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?
        (D)    Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?
        (E)    Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature?

OK…the time has come. You have joined an online dating service or two. Now you must write that all-important profile… the one that will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams… but where to start? Maybe writing isn’t even something you think you do all that well. Even so, you can do this.

The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like…maybe someday love…YOU….THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you won’t like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.
 

Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor. Especially this one, ladies if you love to dance, make sure he too either knows how to dance or really will love to learn at least. I’ve taught many couple where one come to me and thinks I can all of a sudden can make the other love to dance. Sorry but you really should have looked into that one early on.

Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.

Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is so important. The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.

 Examples: 

http://www.lookbetteronline.com/ – I like this one cause it offers other features like writing your profile for you and retouches etc.

www.headshotslondon.co.uk  (Lynn Herrick comes up often)

http://www.datingheadshots.com/ – cool cause you plug in you zip and it locates a studio for you.

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