Ask the Right Questions First

OK.  You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile.  You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact.  What now?  How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all?  You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is.  It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. Ladies too you want to know upfront, is this man still living at home, does he work did he finish school. How reliable is he. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady or man if you decide you want to do that.  

After you are past the initial small talk, Fellas, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?”  Listen carefully to her answers.  She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general. Ladies, ask him, "So who do you turn to when you need really good advice?" Look out for answeres like "my college buddy", or "my drinking buddies" or even "nobody I don’t need advice"…etc 

Guys, next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?”  Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong.  Ladies, he should give you a similar response. Both should be aware however of too many negatives used  or either one looking to speed things up prematurely.

Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?”  If one puts all the blame on the other, you should probably move on to the next prospect.  If either takes all the blame themselves, you should probably do the same.  If either says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, then you’ve probably heard the right answer.  Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you some insight and make you more confident when you meet each other for the first time. Remember honesty is the best policy really but don’t ever sell yourself short. 
 

I hope you enjoyed this series. If this has helped you in any way we’d love to know with you comments. We may add to this or continue it in another series.  Thanks for reading.

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